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zoomingupthathill) wrote2022-10-20 02:35 am
zoomingupthathill) wrote2022-10-20 02:35 am
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[like he KNOWS there are ways people detect people being interested or not, ok. those are comments he hears! but no clue how they detect that or how to register himself as Not Available!! ("eligible". fucking hell.)]
I have a second question.
Though it might be several questions in one.
Is there supposed to be a lot of overlap between how you can act with a close friend and how you can act with someone you're [scream] interested in?
I would assume the answer is still yes but I have to start questioning more of my assumptions at this point.
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no. No, calm down, Max, fucking chill. ]
yes
there is an overlap
in my experience there is definitely an overlap
i hung out and did things with my boyfriend that id also do with my friends back home
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So how do
I don't mean to put this entirely on you. It's not like you're the Dating Guru or anything, I'm just worrying too much. This whole thing happened with someone I don't know very well, so now I'm wondering if I've missed something about how I act. And close friends would have to be more of a concern. Presumably.
This is stupid.
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did you get someone thinking you were flirting with her
or him or them or whoever
[ She shouldn't presume, she could easily see like...Will, for example, thinking Gladion's a snack. ]
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I don't know for certain. All the person said was that they were interested in me.
I've tried to be
less harsh to people who don't deserve it. Including this person.
[...More to the point, the entire concept that he might be dateable is making him freak out a little bit over whether hugging Rindo constitutes feelings fraud, but haha let's not talk about that!!]
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have you been less harsh with me
if thats what youre thinking did it then theres got to be something else because ive never thought you were flirting
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No, you haven't needed it. I mean people I would have dismissed as stupid or naive.
[......oh god if he continues that thought he risks dropping hints about who it might have been. SLAM THE BRAKES RIGHT THERE.]
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thank you i am neither of those things
[ ........usually, but she's not about to admit her own relationship problems— ]
so this person who may or may not be stupid or naive has taken things youve done to try and be nicer than normal as potential romantic interest
thats what youre telling me youve got of the situation right
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I might be overreacting.
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[Ugh. Wait. Okay.]
To recap, all that actually happened is that someone who I've been trying to treat more fairly called me out to a private conversation and told me that they "liked" me.
It is what it is. What I'm worried about now is dealing with the possibility of it happening again.
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if you told them no then unless theyre a creep it wont
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[The longer this goes on the more stupid he feels. I MEAN, WHEN YOU PUT IT LIKE THAT...
In fact, about ten seconds later:]
Never mind. I'm being ridiculous.
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yes its a little out there to assume everyones going to start asking you out but it sure as hell sounds like you havent done anything like this before
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[what is he DOING
Besides revving up to insist that that's not what he's assuming actually. And then getting something resembling a grip.]
Correct. I don't spend much of my day hanging around people our age and never have. My impression was that this kind of thing happens pretty frequently when you do.
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youre not exactly wrong i guess?
yeah last summer everyone was kind of obsessed with dating and romance and shit like that [ herself included but no not like that don't perceive her ]
but with my friends in california we never talked about it
its entirely reasonable to not be used to the complicated battleground of teenage dating
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- share lore that makes you sound like a Dweeb Ass but honors Max's sacrifice of time and dignity to your stupid cause
- be aloof, allowing Max to invent her own headcanons but retaining plausible deniability. warning: may potentially end the conversation whether there's any juice left in it or not
CHOOSE WISELY.]
Thank you for the validation.
Not being used to it isn't something I mind. Seeing a world I wasn't raised to be a part of is just a given. It's an issue of
[...
It's a lot of things, which he's a bit staggered by the volume of, and unsure of how to sum up. It's not that he particularly wants to enter that "world", or feels like he has to. So what is it that's freaking him out about this so much further than just tell him you're not interested, then? Is it plain FOMO? Some kind of practicality or inevitability? A need to have it both ways, finding a way to rebel without actually stepping out of his comfort zone? Or just more Ryslig existentialism??]
I don't even know how to explain it.
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just start with what you do know
im not going to make fun
[ It's different. But in a way, with how much he isn't sure of...
It reminds her of El. ]
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What he does know. Alright. Backing up, then.]
I suspect you've already worked this out, but my family is extremely wealthy. Specifically, through research and business, not any kind of aristocratic ties. When I say I grew up in a different world it's not a formal rule or distinction. I wasn't prohibited from being around other families or anything. It was just the way we spent our time. Everything was connected to the family business, even when I was very young.
[tapping...his fingers...]
This isn't even counting anything to do with Mother losing her mind. That complicated everything. But imagining if it hadn't, I would still be in a similar position w/r/t my family. Anyone I felt seriously about would need to be ready to be around all of that. Not just the people but the business and the money.
Obviously none of this matters anymore, it's just the starting point. I know there are a lot of different ways to have a relationship. None of them really appeal to me.
[and that's the point where his head starts to spin, because it sounds so simple but there is something else absolutely fucking chewing on him that he cannot isolate.]
What I don't know is why it's not enough to just say that. It feels like there's something important I'm forgetting to add to that.
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[ Just to confirm, yeah, she knows, young master.
But, okay, part of this is new. She absolutely thought he was a little prince runaway. Time to mull over whether to keep that secret forever or pull it out when she really feels like teasing him.
Honestly, what surprises her the most is how candid he is about his mother. Max is...touched, honestly. ]
anyway there shouldnt be
anything else to say i mean
i think if you tell someone youre not interested then thats it
anyone who tries to push it is an asshole
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Right. And I don't have trouble saying so.
[After which there's a hefty pause. Long enough that one could assume he's finished up his conversational turn, without any silverfeather is typing... to clarify things.
(Meanwhile, chasing his feelings past that hurdle just backs them into a corner. All the conclusions he can draw are just kind of pathetic, and most of them are beyond what he came running to Max about in the first place. He can work that shit out on his own. Probably.)]
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But...more doesn't come, so. ]
so thats all there is to it
unfortunately there arent any secret shortcuts
which is why im emphasizing again: if someone doesnt take no for an answer screw them
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If you ask Max this question you will explode immediately.
Oh well.
He doesn't need the reassurance. But it's...sort of nice anyways? Maybe? He doesn't hear that kind of thing often enough to have a standing opinion on it. Is he taking this too seriously? Or not seriously enough...?]
I'll remember it. Thanks.